Confine yourself to observing and u always miss the point of ur own life. The object cn be stated this way: Live the best life u can. Life is a game whose rules u can learn if u leap into it and play it to the hilt. Otherwise, u are cought off balance, continually suprised by the shifting play. Non-players often whine and complain that luck always passes them by. They refuse to see that they can create some of their own luck.
I hope this makes u see how stupid u are... unless u havent already killed urself.
P.S should make my bachelors thesis someday on so clear Werther effect in these forums.